It is so deeply entangled at this point, I can no longer tell the threads from one another. The strands once ran cleanly from one bicycle to the next, linking a discrete sequence of events, considerations, wants, and desires. But then, 15 years ago, a strong force entered my life and I was forced to find alternate means of justifying the acquisition of new machines and kit.
Finding a partner to spend your life with is an incredible experience; to discover the half of you that was missing and feel it join to its mate to become whole is something that defies description. But it doesn’t make buying another bike any easier. If your partner isn’t a Cyclist, there will be endless debating over ancillary details like explaining why already having a bike doesn’t preclude needing the machine in question, or why the existing stable can’t fulfill the purposes of the proposed new steed. Then – should the case have been made and the principle of the purchase agreed to – there will come the maddening discussions of budget and the prioritization of food or clothing over the bike. Suffice to say, being in a relationship with your life’s partner is worth it, but only just.
Partnering with a Cyclist is messier still. While food and clothing are quickly rank ordered at the bottom of the priority stack, there is the introduction of quantities of bicycles on the already-stretched budget. As the VMH happily supports and participates enthusiastically in the selection of wheels and kit, the knowledge will be creeping in that this acquisition only emboldens her for her own Rule #12 endeavors; n + 1
slips to n + 2
.
It happened smoothly, without me noticing. Happy to have justified and gained budget approval for my original Bianchi EV2, I scoured the farthest reaches of the primordial Interwebs to stretch my budget to the maximum. I emerged from the other side with a full Dura-Ace 9-speed equipped racing machine, at which point I had no alternative but to accept that her steel Bianchi needed more than fresh bar tape in order to stand up against my lovely new steed.
She approved her own budget (I hold a seat on the finance committee but do not have a controlling vote) and emerged from a much shorter process with a Camapa Record 10spd equipped EV4. That’s two EV’s more than mine. Her superior machine meant that I had room to make upgrades while flying unnoticed under the radar; lighter wheels, better pedals, saddles, and stems flowed on and off my prized EV2 for several years until finally she had to admit I was due for a more substantial upgrade.
I have found, through this process, that the secret to a happy partnership is to keep the VMH in a slightly better bike than mine at all times. My upgrades stay one step behind, which gives me room to fiddle with my kit while her machines jump in leaps and bounds. Should I find myself unable to justify my own new upgrades, I approach the Committee with the suggestion that she requires an upgrade – a proposal which is approved without exception or opposition. She always lays claim to the best and lightest machines and I get to build and kit out twice as many nice bikes.
I know I’m not the only one taking this approach; Gianni’s VMH got a full Carbone climbing rig and months later he was throwing a leg over his own new steed. My mom recently acquired a 6.5 kilo Redline gravel machine which I’m sure will precede my dad’s next bike. Keeper Jim kitted his wife Jess out with a beautiful carbone rig only to Twitter his way into his own a short time later. All the more reason to marry a Cyclist.
Oh, the web we weave. And if any of you even mentions the word “tandem”, I’m banning you for a week.
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@brett
Or both. (Don't ask, it was a while ago.)
Recently heard the anecdote from a seasoned cyclist, most of the strongest riders they know are either separated or divorced now, but they sure ride fast!
This is different for those of you with partners that ride of course. For the rest of us it's all a bit of a compromise, but I'm pretty sure hiding shit from the one you trust most isn't the best path?? I have a feeling it's when we've been naughty and know we've overspent our bounds... Super Record on a Veloce budget
Fuck that, this is what we do, this is what it takes. My missus and I rationalise that a marriage is not a competition with a score, she doesn't have to buy handbags and shoes if I get something for the bike or vice versa, it's not a tit-for-tat situation.
We can't understand why when you are shacked up with someone, you would want to prevent them from doing or make them feel bad about what they want to do?
I'm thinking the underlying issue is finances, some studies showing it to be the majority cause of relationship arguments. The other is solo time, especially with kids being cared for by the significant other.
I earn my turns by making sure I pull my weight. Having two little blighters makes life hectic in order to get 100k+ in on a weekend, including dreadfully early starts. I was long suffering on an alloy bike until, because of the effort I'd been putting in, she said I could use our savings to get a Carbone... This was major for a family running a budget spreadsheet more complex than government treasury documents, and a major turning point for me lately...
No life is perfect, but I wouldn't swap any of it, especially my missus, for the world..
@Tugman
Thing is, she spends lots of small bills, you spend big on a few. She thinks $150 on a new pair of shoes = nothing. $1500 on a set of modest wheel = HEAPS. I have a smilar problem and here's what I do;
Want a new bike? No problem... buy it piece at a time over 6 months. First a set of brakes, then a de-railure or two. Bars, and stem a while later. Before you know it all that is left is the old frame which is a little hurdle....(wheels are too but at least they can be bought one at a time). Your're only wanting to get a new frame for the old bike, not a whole new one!
@Barracuda
If you blokes would get a grip and obey rule #58 all you have to do is take the Steed in for a "service" from which it comes home a little different.
@Beers
You got this figured out pretty good, brother. +1
@frank Once again you have proven to be so wise. By 'allowing' your VMH to get an upgrade leading to you justifying an upgrade of your own...genius! If you could only do something about the Australopithecus proportions of you and your kin? (cute bike stand excluded)
@The Pressure I hope to meet you some day when I find a parked bike exhibiting an obscene amount of post!!
@brett
Negative on both counts, he who dies with the most toys wins !!
Needless to say, Im not winning at the moment
@Puffy
You might be on to something--One Piece at a Time-- but it took the guy in the Johnny Cash song over 20 years to build his "psychobilly Cadillac" (transmission from a 1953 and engine from a 1973).
@Cyclops
Because its currently in a delicate and extra-special-top-secret state of rebuild. VMH actually came out with it and I barely hid my panic as I yelled in an unnervingly high-pitched voice, "She's not ready! She's not ready!"